How do you differentiate normal anger from problematic anger?
Written by
Natalie Hamilton
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Prof. Benjamin Murphy, Ph.D.The way to identify normal anger from problematic types of patterns is to take note of the frequency, level of intensity, and consequences. Normal anger can help resolve conflicts in the moment, while problematic anger can cause lasting damage. Classic indicators of anger include physical aggression and damage to your health. I help my clients learn and distinguish between these markers early on.
Anger becomes an issue when it leads to ongoing relationship damage. Recurring conflicts that go unresolved signal warning signs. When coworkers start physically avoiding you, you pose a risk. If family members walk on eggshells, you have taken it too far. These are called intervention techniques.
Behavioral Signs
- Physical aggression toward objects or people
- Threatening language during conflicts
- Destructive actions during outbursts
Relationship Impacts
- Persistent damage to personal connections
- Isolation due to others' avoidance
- Loss of professional opportunities
Cognitive Symptoms
- Memory gaps during angry episodes
- Fixation on perceived injustices
- Inability to consider alternative perspectives
Physical Consequences
- Chronic hypertension from sustained tension
- Insomnia due to rumination patterns
- Digestive issues from constant stress
Emotional Patterns
- Frequent irritability between outbursts
- Intense shame following episodes
- Persistent resentment toward others
Problematic anger will often come with health consequences. Ongoing elevated stress can lead to damage to the cardiovascular system (high blood pressure); sleep disruption can lead to cognitive disruption (lower cognitive functioning); headaches can become chronic; and digestive issues can become chronic, as well. Problems such as these indicate the need for professional intervention or a strategic approach.
Seek professional evaluation if multiple indicators persist. Lasting relationship damage requires intervention. Physical aggression demands immediate attention. Effective treatments exist for all anger issues. Early action prevents worsening patterns.
Read the full article: 10 Proven Strategies How Manage Anger Effectively
